May I be excused for a second. You see, I have always wondered what it felt like when people said things about you that hurt like hell. I mean they are telling lies and fibs about you. What makes it worse is when they don't even know you.
I deem such people to be haters and liars. They don't contribute anything to society but 'palava.' They are so hateful, it hurts when you watch them destroy themselves because I refuse to let such ignorant people strip me of my destiny. You see, I have a purpose and a vision, and I have goals in place to make them happen. Hence, I don't have the time to sit with haters who are going nowhere and talk about what didn't happen.
It is baffling when you hear people say things that are untrue. Makes you wonder if you are so special, they have nothing better to do with their time than talk about you, your hair do and the fact that you are living and loving life.
Get a life is my advice to such people.
If you are a lady reading this, I know we feel the pain more when people say things that are not true. However, you must learn to rise above the pain and say to yourself, "I'm all that and much more for people to drop everything they are doing and waste their precious time dissecting my life."
My mum puts it like this, "When people talk about you, you must be doing something right. You must be up to something they can't do." Wipe your tears ladies, don't let any joka derail you from your vision.
What surprises me is when a man talks about you. I thought men didn't gossip or am I being naive. Then again, worst things have happened. What's with some joka who thinks he is JaRule's brother, looking like Coolio and Snoop Dog in the dreads and some fake Rocawear on his backside telling the world he knows you when you can barely make out his name because you have no dea who he is?
Forgive my arrogance but such people don't do anything for me. If you think you have got to model yourself on some rapper, then you have no idea who you are. If you believe being a photocopy is the best you can do, by all means, you are welcome to do so but don't bring it down my end. What have we turned into? When did we forget about manners and think its okay to speak to people like they don't matter.
I don't know about you but I matter a lot and if you can't stand the sight of me, please be my guest, look away or get a knife and take your eyes out. That's mean, I know but I don't care. Remember, telling it like it is, no apology necessary!
RESPECT. Don't we know the meaning of that word anymore? Why have we become so disrespectful just because we live in a society where everything and anything goes. Forgetting that we are a people of cultures and traditions. Excuse me, I don't mean to be culturally minded or traditionally conditioned because that's boxing yourself up with a myopic point of view but what's wrong with giving honour to whom it is due.
We are raising boys not men, girls not ladies and when they do wrong, we turn a blind eye. No wonder they end up being players and haters.
Its time this madness stops and we go back to basics and raise our girls to be women and our boys men. Men of standard and women of substance, who together make an impact in society.
Its time to stop being a hater player and start respecting others. Treat everyone equally, like you wish others treat you.
Selah!!!!
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